A Girl's Girl
Something I’ve been noticing lately, and am absolutely here for, is women realizing that we can champion for one another. That another woman’s success is not competition or a threat to your own career goals and dreams. The genuine enthusiasm and support woman are openly seeing from other women these days is a breath of fresh air. It is a movement I am one hundred percent excited to see gain traction.
“It’s ok for others to go ahead of you. You are not behind. You are in divine timing and flow.”
It’s positive in every way. It lifts you up to be supported and encouraged by the women around you. Wait for it…it also lifts YOU up to encourage OTHER women. See, we are what we put in. If we feel threatened, left behind, or less than because of another woman’s success... If that’s where our thoughts dwell… If in our minds we live and see the world through a negative lens… Then those are the things that will fill up our hearts and minds, and those are the things that will pour out of us.
Now, flip it. If we are pumped for another woman crushing it. If we are there on the sidelines cheering them on. If the things coming out of our mouths are supportive, encouraging, and positive, you’re not only lifting the other woman up, but also yourself. If inwardly we are excited to see someone else succeed… If outwardly others are hearing our encouragement and championing of them…Then those are the things that will fill us up. Those are the things that will shape our perspective of the world.
Where you choose to let your thoughts live, and how you choose to see the world shapes the very fabric of who you are. Choosing positivity and joy breeds positivity and joy. If those are things you are flooding your mind with, there’s no room left for the pollution of negativity.
“I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day, and I believe in miracles.”
Some of you are reading this and already clapping on the sidelines. Others may be hearing brakes squealing while your heads are craning around trying to understand how this not only looks good on paper but could possibly be practical in this world. Because you’ve only ever seen the catty side of women and don’t think the championing of women is worth the energy or the time of day, because what’s the point? You will never change the catty woman who has her claws out and is out for blood.
I hear you. I tell my kids that you have good eggs, bad eggs, and downright rotten eggs. But I encourage them to be the good egg and not worry about the rotten one that you honestly have no control over. We live in a broken world where there will always be bad people doing bad things. And that my friends is where we insert Jesus and the grace and salvation he brings. But that is a rabbit hole we will go down another day. Let’s stay focused.
You’ve heard the phrase “fake it until you make it.” Well, my friends, if being a girl’s girl doesn’t yet feel authentic to you, I encourage you to do just that. Fake it until you make it. Even if it feels weird, awkward, or forced, the more you practice sharing positivity and cheering + rooting other women on, the more it will begin to feel natural and authentic. One day you’ll look up and realize that you’re not having to choose to champion for others, it is something that just naturally happens. (Are you seeing that this can be applied to every other aspect of life yet?!)
“It is not about being the ‘first’ or the ‘only’… It’s about creating a pathway for the girls coming up.”
I’m going to end my thoughts by saying this: What would life look like a month from now if starting today you chose joy? If starting today, you chose to cheer others on, to support them, to love them. It’s the butterfly effect. Where one positive change leads to another and another. Where we can look back and see how one moment rippled out in multiple directions spreading goodness as it went. So, I challenge you. No, I dare you. For the next four weeks, choose to be a girl’s girl, choose to encourage and support the women around you and see how not only their lives, but also yours is affected.